Three things change has taught me

It’s been three years now since I accepted the internship at Elevation Church. At the time I had no idea this was really only one giant stepping stone. Looking back now I can see the way God had been preparing my heart for some of the biggest changes I’d faced up to this point. I hated change, but all throughout my life I can see the was God has been molding my heart, breaking me, and gently leading me to accept change and be quick to move forward and face it head-on.

Little did I know when I left for that internship, I was leaving home for good.

In the time frame of three years, I went from being in a 4-year relationship to single. I moved 15 hours away. I had to say goodbye to a church I loved, the best community I had ever had, and my best friends. I moved 6 times in the same city, accepted two internships, and started my career in social media.

So here’s what I’ve learned about change:

1. You don’t need to know all of the details to say yes.

You most likely don’t even want to know all of the details because if you did, you may not say yes. Anytime I have faced a big decision that required change, I wanted to wait until I knew all of the details before I gave my answer. I wish this is how it works, but it’s not. God often will call us to say yes before He gives us the full plan. I believe He does this to test our faith. Will we trust Him even when we don’t know the outcome? Will we say yes even if it means saying no to something we are holding onto? 

2. Your biggest transitions will lead you to your destiny.

Every yes is leading you closer to your destiny whether you realize it or not.  You often don’t see the significance of the changes you face in your life until years down the road. With every change you face, every move you make and every transition you find yourself in, there is purpose in it all. When I said “yes” to ending a 4-year relationship, all I could see was the pain. Years later, as hard as that was to walk through, I now see the purpose in it. It was an act of obedience that God called me to take because where I was heading, there were things He knew I had to let go of first. So next time you’re faced with a change that isn’t easy, know that it’s only a stepping stone to get you closer to your destiny. 

3. It does get easier.

Let me tell you. Change has never come easy for me. But here’s the thing… like anything else in life, the more you face it, the easier it gets. Don’t get me wrong, it’s still hard, but when you build history with God and you have seen Him come through and prove himself faithful to get you through transition time and time again, it will get easier to say yes to change. 

Recently I had to say goodbye once again to a dear friend in my life who I got to also be roommates with for the past year. What once would have broken me, now only excites me. Not that I am excited that I’m losing a friend in my city, but after walking through so many changes and saying a thousand goodbyes, I know the end of the story. I know it will be okay. It excites me because change is something we should celebrate. It means we are moving forward. 

(You can listen to me and Megan's latest podcast on bravery in the face of change HERE)

When we’re so focused on what we are losing, we miss the opportunity to celebrate what God is doing. Change and transition will always be a part of our lives. The more we embrace it, the more we will experience God’s faithfulness in our lives. Through the constant change, it only grows our roots deeper in Jesus.

When I didn’t think I could face what was in front of me, He was there to sustain me. Jesus is the one thing that never changes. His love is steadfast. He carries us through every “yes” in our life. Even the ones where we’re kicking and screaming.

I don’t know what change you’re currently facing, but I do want to tell you that you don’t have to be afraid. You will get through this.

Here are five verses you can hold onto no matter what change you are facing:

- Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever. | Hebrews 13:8

- Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. | Joshua 1:9

- For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. | Jeremiah 29:11

- Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. | Philippians 4:6

- For I the Lord do not change; therefore you, O children of Jacob, are not consumed. | Malachi 3:6

 

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