3 Steps To Overcoming Perfectionism

This website would have been launched a lot sooner if it wasn’t for this one thing holding me back. And no, I’m not talking about procrastination. I’m talking about perfectionism, which I believe holds us back way more than procrastination ever will. Because at least with procrastination you still accomplish something. But with perfectionism, you never feel like anything is ever good enough. You compare, you strive, and then you walk away altogether and end up doing nothing at all.

What you may not know about me is writing is not my thing. It’s an actual miracle every time I even write a caption for my Instagram. Words don’t come naturally for me and it takes hard work and time. Lots and lots of time.

For way too long I allowed these words to come out of my mouth, “I’m just not a writer.”  

I knew God called me to write, and writing was even a part of my job, but I still never felt qualified to be a writer. I thought that some people were gifted with writing, and some weren’t. And I definitely fit into that second category.

It took digging deep to realize what the root issue was, and I believe the root is this perfectionist mentality. This mentality that says if you can’t do it perfectly, don’t do it at all. You see, this area doesn’t only affect my writing, it affects every area of my life. Can you relate?

But how can we live an abundant and free life if we’re living as slaves to this mentality? We can’t. If we want to change our life, it starts with changing our vocabulary.

When I came to the realization that writing, much like anything else in life wasn’t just a skill that came naturally to a select few, but something that took dedication, consistency, and work, it changed everything for me. I could no longer get away with saying “I’m not a writer” because the only way that would be true is if I refused to write. I may not be the best writer, but that doesn’t mean I’m not a writer.

This is true of everything in life. We’re not going to wake up one day and master whatever it is we’re trying to achieve, and we will sure never be perfect.

When we embrace where we’re at, flaws and all, that is when we will start to experience freedom in this area.

Here are 3 ways that I hope can also help set you free

1. Stop Striving

What would it look like if we truly lived like God was already pleased with us? He doesn’t expect perfectionism from us, only willing hearts to be obedient to what he has called us to do.

You don’t have to keep striving, performing, and chasing after unrealistic goals. Be okay with where you’re at and work on consistency, not striving.

2. Reclaim your name

"Christ has set us free to live a free life. So take your stand! Never again let anyone put a harness of slavery on you.” Galatians 5:1

It’s time for us to take back what the enemy has stolen. The freedom that perfectionism has hindered us from experiencing. As we see in the passage above, we have complete freedom in Christ. We are the one's who allow ourselves to become slaves to this thing of perfectionism.

Don’t allow anyone, or even yourself to place labels on your life. You’re not a perfectionist, you’re a child of God. You may, like me, struggle with perfectionism, but that’s not who you are. You are free. Free to live this life in the fullness and abundance of God. 

3. Celebrate the wins

Truth is, you’re probably doing much better than you think. So take a break from your computer/tasks and go get yourself a donut. Or two. Sometimes I’ll literally write one paragraph for a blog post then take a moment to celebrate that small victory by letting myself wonder off to Pinterest to look up food recipes. Ha! Remember how I said writing took an actual miracle for me? So sometimes it’s just celebrating those small wins. Taking time to acknowledge and celebrate small victories will only set us up for more success. So next time you feel the perfectionist in you wanting to come out, take some time to slow down and celebrate a small win.

Kenzie Kober